tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8432354593645182056.post7907037733098608017..comments2023-09-15T05:46:39.963-07:00Comments on Quirky Black Girls: In Solidarity w/Crunk Feminist Collective: I, too, know what it means to dat...lexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08265539602839655150noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8432354593645182056.post-90217931271402752382011-01-14T21:13:43.878-08:002011-01-14T21:13:43.878-08:00The way you describe the relationships with these ...The way you describe the relationships with these men who date feminists, it sounds as though the men are blessed with the gift of intellectual enlightenment courtesy of the feminist, and give absolutely nothing in return. Do I understand that correctly? I don't see how it's possible to have the capacity to appreciate someone intellectually, and simultaneously fail to stimulate them intellectually.<br /><br />I can't imagine a feminist wasting her time on a man that doesn't stimulate her intellectually and give her comforts that are either analogous or polar to the comforts she gives him. I have a hard time plugging into the idea of a person staying in a relationship where there is no reciprocation. I'm not even sure that is possible. Being under appreciated, yes, that happens too often...but being in a relationship with no reciprocation? Am I misunderstanding you?<br /><br />When you talk about being drained and unfulfilled that sounds like a lot of break-ups that don't end well. Those kinds of relationships aren't gender specific. I know that there are men who take advantage of women mentally and emotionally, but there are women who do the exact same thing to men. It's just different sides of the same user and abuser coin.<br /><br />Just as there are men who are egomaniacal pricks there are women who are just as bad. Just as there are men who have a false sense of entitlement, there are women who are the same. People who think their opinion is the only one that's valid, or only think you're smart or charming when you agree with them.<br /><br />A lot of intellectuals regardless of gender are very insecure. In my experience intellectuals are more intimidated than anyone else, by intelligent members of the opposite sex. They have a bizarre tendency to be really fatalistic about relationships. It also seems that the more educated an individual is, the less willing they are to compromise in a relationship. <br /><br />You say that you need an equal return on what has been freely given to the men you've dated, but I just don't get how you can date someone without receiving anything. You imply that you will make a better man out of the man you are with, but if he's not making you into a better woman by the same token, then why would you even be with that person to begin with?Hyrulianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323045907885875601noreply@blogger.com