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I also want to add this quotation:
I have a hard time talking about these things in cute terms because these things are not cute. They are scary and frustrating and intimidating.
I like the language of 'spoons' because of the quantization, the idea that each task requires a discrete unit of energy. I also have a hard time with using it for myself because it doesn't account for the importance of self-care in my life. It's not so much that I have limited energy so much as that if I fail to perform adequate self-care, my energy will become limited. Then we get into issues of what constitutes self-care, because my self-care doesn't necessarily look like your self-care, and oh, look, I suppose it's time for me to write a blog post.
I've tried explaining my current situation using spoons but a lot of people don't get it. So right now, I have sealed myself of from the world mostly and I'm letting that speak for me.
Hm. I never thought of spoons as cutesy. When I read the essay, I thought it was a useful metaphor.
But honestly, this video about Black women, stress, and infant mortality was a game changer for me. After watching that, my explanation for not doing something/taking longer to do something/having a harder time doing something is basically a big ol' bag of, "Cuz fuck you." Like if someone asks, "Why'd you take a nap instead of going to class/work/exploitative capitalist thing?" My answer would be, "Oh, because fuck you. But how was your weekend though?" And then I'd go about my day, giving and withholding fucks however I please.